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<b><font face="Verdana" size="4">Discussing HIV/AIDS With Your Teen</font></b></p>
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parent, you probably know that it�s important to talk with your teen about HIV
and AIDS. But, for many reasons, this may be hard for you to do. This
information will make it easier.</font></p>
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<font face="Verdana" size="2" color="#000000">HIV is a topic parents can�t avoid. Teenagers
read about it in the paper, watch television news and hear about it at school.
Even very young teens may have questions and fears.</font></span><!--mstheme--></font></h4>
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<font face="Verdana" size="2" color="#000000">Older teens may experiment with both drugs and
sex. Over 50% of teens over age 16 have had sex. They need to know how to
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Parents are probably the best people to discuss HIV and AIDS with their
teenagers. They can give them family values as well as facts.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Growing
up and coming of age in the days of HIV and AIDS isn�t easy. Parents and
teenagers are challenged to talk with each other about sex in explicit terms.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">At the
same time, the threat of HIV and AIDS may provide a reason for parents to talk
more openly with their teenagers about sexual issues. The results of this
increased communication can only be positive.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 1 5"><u><b><font face="Verdana">Talking Can
Be Hard</font></b></u></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Just
explaining the basics�that HIV can be spread by using needles to shoot drugs and
through vaginal, anal and oral sex�is enough to send even the bravest parent
into hiding. Most of us didn�t think we would ever have to discuss sex in such
explicit terms with our children.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">You may
meet a great deal of initial resistance and silence. Your teen may feel you
shouldn�t be talking about such issues. Or that his or her life should be
personal and private.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Many
teens think HIV is just a �gay disease.� Your teen may be afraid that asking
questions about HIV will make you think he or she is having sex or using drugs.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">In
spite of all this, many teens may secretly welcome a chance to get accurate
information about HIV from their parents. They will appreciate your calm,
honest approach and the respect you show them by talking in such a direct way.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><u><b><font face="Verdana">Know the
Facts </font></b></u></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">What
does your teenager need to know about HIV and AIDS? AIDS is caused by HIV, a
virus that is spread through intimate sexual contact and through sharing needles
to inject drugs, tattoo, or for any other reason.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">HIV
isn�t spread through common daily activities. We do not get HIV from hugging,
eating in restaurants, shaking hands, coughing or sneezing, or using public
toilets.</font></p>
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Teenagers are not immune to HIV. Anyone�male or female, young or old, gay or
straight�can get HIV if they share needles or have unsafe sex with a person who
has HIV.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">People
can protect themselves from HIV. If they don�t have sex and don�t share
needles, they are safe. If they do have sex, they must follow safer sex
guidelines to help protect themselves. (Further on are safer sex guidelines.)</font></p>
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Ready</font></b></u></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Call or
visit your local library, health clinic, private doctor or public health
Department to get information about HIV: what it is, how it is spread and how it
can be prevented.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Think
about your own feelings and fears about HIV. Be clear about the facts and
values you want to communicate.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">After
you�ve collected information and know what you want to say, talk with your
spouse or with friends. This will help you get used to talking about HIV and
using words that may be difficult for you to say.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Pick a
quiet, calm time for your conversation, when you will be able to talk for a
while without interruption.</font></p>
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time might be when you are driving, or when you are working together with your
teen. Having something to do while you talk somehow makes it easier.</font></p>
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subject of HIV comes up, use the opportunity even if it�s not when you planned.
Don�t� let a natural time to talk pass by!</font></p>
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how you�ll start the conversation.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Here
are some possible opening statements:</font></p>
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�We�re sure hearing a lot about HIV these days. Have you talked about it at
school yet?</font><!--mstheme--></font><!--msthemelist--></td></tr>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">�Did
you read that article about the boy who has HIV? Do you think he should be
allowed to go to school?� </font><!--mstheme--></font><!--msthemelist--></td></tr>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">"I
have something I need to talk to you about. I feel pretty nervous and
embarrassed, but I feel it is important for us to talk about HIV.�</font><!--mstheme--></font><!--msthemelist--></td></tr>
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Remember that getting started is often the hardest part, Once you�ve begun,
both you and your teen will probably feel relieved. You may even be surprised
at how well you talk together.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><u><b><font face="Verdana">Talking
Tips</font></b></u></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Stay
calm.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"> </p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Keep
your tone simple and direct.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"> </p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Use
specific, clear terms. Ask questions to make sure your teen understands what
you are saying.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">If you
feel uncomfortable, say so. Let your teen know that HIV is too important not to
talk about, even if talking isn�t easy or comfortable.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"> </p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Talk
about HIV as a disease we all need to know about. Make sure you don�t sound
like you�re accusing your teen.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"> </p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Listen
carefully to any questions your teen might ask. These may be a clue to specific
fears or areas of misinformation that you can clear up. Understanding HIV makes
it less frightening.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"> </p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">If you
don�t know the answer, find out together. The facts about HIV can be confusing,
but working with each other can bring you closer.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"> </p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Use
your child�s age and development and your own feelings as a guide about how much
information to present. Your 13 year old who has shown little interest in sex
may not need as much information as a 16 year old who has a steady boyfriend or
girlfriend.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Be
careful not to preach. Your conversation will be more successful if you simply
explain your concerns and then listen to your teen. Be clear about the values
you want to present.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"> </p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Will
you emphasize no drug use or no injection drug use?</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"> </p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Will
you focus on no sex until marriage or no sex until it�s part of a mature, loving
relationship?</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"> </p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Will
you tell your teen about safer sex and emphasize the importance of
following safer sex guidelines?</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"> </p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Make
sure you talk more than once. You�ll do a better job if you continue to talk
about HIV often, as the topic comes up.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><b><u><font face="Verdana">What Is
Safer Sex?</font></u></b></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">The
following safer sex guidelines can help protect against HIV:</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Don�t
allow any of your partner�s body fluids to enter your body. HIV is passed in
certain body fluids. These include semen, blood, menstrual blood and vaginal
secretions. These fluids can enter through the vagina, the anus, the mouth
and any cut or open sore.</font><!--mstheme--></font><!--msthemelist--></td></tr>
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Always use a latex condom with a water-based lubricant for vaginal, anal and
oral sex. Both men and women should carry condoms and insist that they be
used.</font><!--mstheme--></font><!--msthemelist--></td></tr>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Don�t
use oil-based lubricants. Hand creams, massage oils, Vaseline, etc., can
cause the condom to leak or break.</font><!--mstheme--></font><!--msthemelist--></td></tr>
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<p class="MsoBodyText" style="margin: 1 5"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Don�t
have sex when you�re drunk or high. Drinking or using other drugs makes it
harder to follow safer sex guidelines.</font><!--mstheme--></font><!--msthemelist--></td></tr>
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<font face="Verdana" size="2">Source: AIDS Action Committee</font></p>
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